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Some Difficulties with Dictation But Still Great!

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I had some difficulties with dictation last week! Yes, I experienced difficulties with two aspects: poetry and Spanish words. See what happened.

The second piece I found while rummaging around in files in my bookcase was a poem I wrote April 20, 1991 after driving from Raton, New Mexico to Chimayo, New Mexico on Good Friday. Finding this gem thrilled me, but again I didn’t want to type it up—these old arthritic fingers of mine groaned! So, I continued my experiment with dictating.

Because of the breaks in the lines, I had to deal with that. I tried saying, “Return,” but it just typed the word, so I had to stop reading the poem and press, “Return” for each line. I thought I could give the command and it would work. I need to research that!

When I read the Spanish words, Microsoft Word’s dictionary didn’t recognize the word. So, for the word “sanctuario”, it put in “saint.” I had to retype all the other Spanish words because it did the best it could do! In reality, there weren’t that many.

So enjoy my found treasure that I dictated!


A Modern-Day Pilgrimage to Chimayo

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April 20, 1991

A modern-day pilgrimage to a 
Very holy New Mexico spot for Good Friday–
El Sancturio de Chimayo!

I drove a car; others did too!
I worried I’d be the only one not walking.
I drove 180 miles – anticipating, wondering
About how absurd this waste of a day was, 
yet compelled to go.

Traditional pilgrims – walking miles
Sore feet and backs,
Walking sticks!
Sweat, blisters and dedication.

I studied the faces as I drove by;
Later, as I stood in line with these dedicated souls.
Old wrinkled faces who had done this many times before,
The young being introduced to a lifelong tradition,
Families – sharing a meaningful experience, 
an event mixed with the air of reverence and the joy of a picnic, 
mostly Hispanics, solemn.

Cowboys, hats, horses – expectant,
Shorts, backpacks – water bottles,
Anglos—capturing a borrowed tradition.
Dogs on leashes. An expectant atmosphere.
National Guard men carrying our two flags –
Blowing in the cool breeze,
United States – red, white, and blue
New Mexico – red and gold
waving softly.

I first saw pilgrims
At the east edge of Santa Fe –
A sprinkle. 
Miles from Chimayo.
A few deserted vehicles parked 
on the roadside.
The farther west, I drove the more they were.
Steadily the number increased
The closer we got to Chimayo.

Clouds hung low, threatening snow on this spring day.

We arrived.

Although I was alone in my car
With Windy, my ten-pound black poodle,
I felt a part – a piece of
Something so holy and special –
A part of a deep, reverent belief 
in a beautiful celebration.

Finding a spot, I parked, pulling off of the main road.
I followed the hordes of people.
I followed the sounds.
A priest saying the words of the day on a PA
System that could be heard from a distance.
I dropped down the hillside on a warn path
Into the sleepy New Mexican village, and

El Sanctuario De Chimayo.

Thousands of people milled around – some in line,
Waiting to enter, eating spicy burritos,
Some had accomplished their task early
 and enjoyed the leisure time afterward.

Large, wet snowflakes, drifted down lazily,
	A New Mexico mountain gift.

I stood in line – silent, hopeful, drinking it all in,
Anticipating the event I had
Driven three hours for, yet wondering.
The Spanish language caught my ear – 
The rhythmic voicing of words, 
So beautiful!

First, we passed through an old wooden gate, 
Worn and sacred with the hands that came seeking,
Old, dilapidated and marked
With weather and time. 
No rush, no hurry, no worry!

I touched it. 
I touched life and pain and times before me. 
Other hands had touched it.
Thousands of hurting, hopeful people ready for the blessings
This place had.

Step-by-step, we meandered our way 
into the courtyard which is a cemetery. 
The buried people here in this place, special and honored. 
Trees shaded this place – peaceful and serene.

We neared the door to the sanctuary, 
Closer and closer,
		Massive wooden doors guarding this mountain treasure.

Now I entered. 
The dirt floor inside the door slanted downward.
A charged energy – anticipation – filled the air –
Solemnity of the moment.
No voices, a holy silence.
Incense, chili, burning cedar – luscious smells mixed 
with our anticipation.
People expectant of something –
A miracle.

Reredos lined the walls of the church.
Faded, colorful pictures – 
Meaning
Sacred stories told.

Shoulder to shoulder, two lines threaded their way toward the altar.
People sat in the pews  
praying, 
absorbing the spirit of the place.

As we approached the altar, first, something appeared
As diamonds laying there, 
Sparkling and shine.
Then I realized – bags of dirt,
Holy dirt
Healing dirt
Why I came!

Finally, the altar rail—
I’m there!

As I touched the bag that is mine, 
I felt it, the power.
On the altar, a bultos stood, El Señor Santiago,
riding his horse, sacred.

We slowly threaded our way
Into a small side room.
0h, be careful—low doorway.
Then another small room to the side.

The source of this holy soil,
The hole in the ground.
I knelt down and touched it,
Prayed with it in my hands, 
Rubbed it in my fingers,
Wondering what I could do 
to commemorate this moment – 
Pray, sing, dance, or scream for joy?
No, out of the place—not appropriate.

Upon leaving, I passed through another room, 
Lined ceiling to floor with evidence – 
Thankful letters, abandoned crutches and braces!
So many pieces of
Evidence of healings – 
Miracles!

I left the church.
Outside, I walked around the grounds,
Shaded with tall cottonwood trees,
Almost in a daze. 

Light puffy clouds still filled the sky.
I felt so peaceful, 
Connected 
Grounded to the Earth.
My hands still dirty and moist.
Alone, no one knew my name – yet a part of something
Larger than me!

I wanted to stay! 
To drink in the peaceful liqueur of the moment
To watch more and soak it all in,
But the snow returned.

Reluctantly, I left – to go home.
Windy slept peacefully in the passenger seat
	But happy for my return.

The mystery of this age-old tradition filled me 
My healing came with a connection with
Like-minded people
A sacred place
And my God!

A day taken from my busy schedule.
A step back in time
A day spent alone— yet a part,
Reflecting –
Listening from my heart –
And fulfilling a dream –

Good Friday at
The Sanctuario de Chimayo.
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Gate into courtyard of El Sanctuario de Chimayo

Ash Wednesday is this Wednesday, February 14. Sharing this poem now is timely as we face the forty days of Lent. Hopefully it inspires you to do something memorable this year to commemorate this special time of the year.

Finally, have you tried dictation on your computer this week? Hopefully, my experiment last week spurred you on. Let me know if you did!

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Lin standing at the gate of El Sanctuario de Chimayo

In April 2015, Lin and I visited El Santuario de Chimayo, and once again, I experienced the sacred atmosphere of this holy treasure of New Mexico.


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Parents’ Death: Tough Topic #1—Dread?

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For years, my parents’ death loomed in front of me as they aged. I dreaded losing them and wondered how I would cope. I had intricately woven my life into theirs, never living over four hours away.

It’s been almost ten years since losing Mom and twenty-six in losing Dad. The pain has subsided but never goes away. Here’s how I have coped.

In 2017, a few years after Mom’s death, I wrote a book, A Time to Grow Up: A Daughter’s Grief Memoir, dealing with my grief over the loss of both parents, and how I handled each differently.

These excerpts from my book show the difference in how I handled their two deaths.

Dad and me dancing at his 75th birthday party. Parents' death
Dad and me dancing at his 75th birthday party.

Dad’s Death

“On January 6, 1996, my dad died. Losing my first parent left me reeling. This loss changed my life forever. At Dad’s death, I was eight years sober. I had feared his death for years because of our close relationship. How could I survive without him? I wondered.”

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Larada Horner-Miller, A Time to Grow Up: A Daughter’s Grief Memoir, (2017): xvi.

When my dad died, I didn’t write poetry to get clarity, to heal myself, or to see the events of my life as a part of my process. I wrote but not to deal with my loss.

I focused on Mom—that’s what I did, and I danced and worked.

We talked often about Dad, our loss, and our grief. I realized these conversations were important for both of us to heal. I learned that from her and relished her wisdom—I listened. Her tender care of herself demonstrated to me how to do this mysterious thing so many don’t understand how to do: grieve.

Time healed Mom. She managed her grief and lived seventeen years without Dad, in relative comfort and happiness.

I wanted that for myself when she passed.

Larada Horner-Miller, A Time to Grow Up: A Daughter’s Grief Memoir, (2017): 11.
Mom and me in one of our Christmas outfits bought by Dad. Parents' death
Mom and me in one of our Christmas outfits bought by Dad.

Mom’s Death

On March 23, 2013, Mom died, but this time was different and so very difficult. Both my parents were now gone, and I felt alone, an “adult orphan.” My recovery and faith in my Higher Power helped me survive losing her, but my major relief came through writing—I wrote poetry and lots of it. When I wrote a poem, tears of relief flooded me—a major healing tool. I read them to my therapist, and she cried with me. One particular night, she asked me to publish them so her daughters could read them after she died.

It also helped that I was older and more aware of my personal means of handling life’s hard knocks. I had seventeen more years in recovery and had learned more about grief in watching Mom and how she handled the loss of her beloved husband of forty-three years.

Relief also came from new activities that unfolded in my search for healing and in many familiar activities I had done for years.

Larada Horner-Miller, A Time to Grow Up: A Daughter’s Grief Memoir, (2017): xvii, xviii.

Resources In This Book

As I wrestled with what I wanted to share in this book, my teacher-side came out and I added appendices galore to help the struggling wounded hearts who read this book deal with their grief.

The appendices I included are:

  • Appendix A—It’s a God thing!
    • I listed the many God incidents that occurred during those three months from Mom getting sick and dying:
  • Appendix B—Activities I did
    • I listed the activities I did after Mom died. Notice I focused on grief, but mostly the activities were a part of my normal life.
  • Appendix C—Books and websites that were helpful to me
  • Appendix D—Workbook
    • Healing from grief requires active participation if you want to get past the pain and the loss to the other side—to thrive more than just survive. I listed a few questions and activities to get the juices flowing after reading this book.

Finally,

In a unique twist, I didn’t write when Dad died—I focused on Mom. I wrote poetry and prose when Mom died. After Mom’s death, the poetry came in torrential waves! With every outpouring, more and more of me healed.

We must face our parents’ death—it is inevitable, but how we handle it is our choice. Originally, the title for this book was “I Grew Up to Be the Woman I Always Wanted to Be,” but that didn’t go with the subject, so I changed it. I wrote a poem with that title and will leave you with it by downloading it. (Download here!)

Have you lost a parent? Both parents? If both, do you feel like an adult orphan? How did you handle the loss?


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Mary Magdalene: First Eyewitness!

Mary Magdalene at the empty tomb

So many characters take part in the Easter story. Mary Magdalene has captured my attention this Easter. Happy Easter to all and here are my thoughts:

Mary rose early this Easter morning hundreds of years ago, before anyone else did. It had been a restless night for her—she still had trouble believing that Jesus was dead. She stood at the foot of the cross and witnessed him breath his last. She wept uncontrollably and the other women surrounding her collapsed into each other in their sorrow.

For the last two nights, the disciples and followers had slept together, scattering around the room on mats where they had shared the Last Supper with Jesus, frightened with what they faced in the future. The Sabbath (Saturday) had drug out endlessly. They couldn’t return to the tomb because of the Passover celebration, so they hung out in that hollow room, wondering what they faced.

Dawn breaks for Mary Magdalene

Quietly, as the darkness faded away, she closed the door behind her and headed straight to the tomb where they had buried Jesus. Dawn crept over the horizon—even the birds seemed to be stunned by the recent events.

The disciples had told Mary that Roman soldiers would be guarding the tomb, but she desperately had to be near Jesus. Mary wondered, “What will I do when I got there?” Freely weeping as she went now, Mary had to stifle her sobs during her sleepless night because she didn’t want to keep the others awake. It felt so good to sob deeply out loud! Her heartbreak echoed through the hills. Exhausted and nerves strained, she didn’t care who heard her on this sad morning.

Stone rolled away from the tomb - Mary Magdalene

When she came around the corner and started the incline to the tomb, Mary saw no soldiers—that caught her by surprise. Where were they? The next surprise took her breath away. Someone had moved the stone covering the tomb—massive stone that had taken several to place, rolled away, and she faced a gaping hole it had covered previously.

At that point, Mary went no further. She turned on her heels and ran back to tell Peter and John about her discovery. In her confused state, she thought someone had taken Jesus’ body and told the two faithful disciples that. They quickly latched on their sandals and sprinted to the gravesite. Younger John outran older Peter, and John arrived first. They measured the situation, then returned home in a confused state. What was going on?

To her credit, Mary lingered outside the tomb, weeping about the disappearance of Jesus’ body. Curiosity urged her to look inside the tomb once more—maybe they were wrong, maybe it was an illusion. Maybe Jesus’ body was there. But what she saw again surprised her—it had been a morning of surprises.

Two angels sat where Jesus had been and questioned her about her tears. She answered their questions directly, then a third person appeared behind Mary, who she thought was a gardener. She didn’t look at him but quizzed the angels and him about where they had put Jesus.

It wasn’t until this third person simply said her name, “Mary,” that she turned around, shocked, and recognized his voice. It was the risen Jesus. After a short discourse where Jesus told her what to do, she returned to the disciples. As she ran, her hair tangled with her scarf. Mary’s heart raced. She threw open the door to their lodging and exclaimed, “I have seen the Lord!”

Source: John 20:1-18

What an amazing revelation! In her lingering at the tomb and not rushing off, Mary Magdalene became the first eyewitness to Jesus after the crucifixion. A woman—imagine that!

“In all four Gospels, she is the first to witness Jesus after his resurrection.”

https://departments.kings.edu/womens_history/marymagda.html

I just spent forty days in a Lenten study using Fr. Richard Rohr’s book, Wondrous Encounters, with four other women from all over the world. Daily we communicated on WhatsApp after reading the day’s reading, then we commented and shared our lives. I’m sure these strong, spiritual women (my sister disciples) inspired me to connect so deeply with Mary Magdalene this Easter.

Mary Magdalene’s faithfulness as a follower gave her the privilege of being that person who Jesus first appeared to. I love the fact it was in saying her name that she recognized him. Before that, he appeared and Mary focused on the two angels and her questioning them. She didn’t turn around because she knew these two angels had all the answers she needed. Jesus spoke to her, but in was in saying her name that she recognized him—how powerful our names are when said by a loved one!

Finally, Mary Magdalene, a woman, became the first eyewitness of the risen Lord. She lingered, didn’t rush off in a hurry. I wonder what encounters with Jesus I’ve missed in my life by always being in a hurry—busy, busy, busy.

To many, the Easter story is familiar and maybe has lost its luster. By focusing on one person this year, it made this wonderful story rich and alive for me differently.

Have you ever focused on one character in the Easter story? Peter? John? Jesus? Judas? If so, what was your experience?

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Advice I’d Give the Teenage Larada

Advice

Wise advice to a receptive spirit can make all the difference! The bad news—teenagers think they know everything and rarely listen. My teenager, Larada, has a receptive spirit today and agrees to listen to the wisdom of the crone Larada. For the first time, I’m using the prompt suggested by the Ultimate Blog Challenge and feel it has lots of possibility.

First, my top advice

Be yourself! As a teenager, I got so consumed by the popular view of my friends. Our jeans had to be long enough to touch the ground in the back, and we had to wear Wranglers. Once Dad bought me Levis, and I hated them. I had to have long straight hair and wore it parted on the side. I had a little curl on one side, so mine never hung straight.

By being quiet and not being authentic, people never really knew the real me because I didn’t share her. It took years to find her, but the “me” I found is delightful, energetic and a strong leader. Trust yourself!

Second piece of advice

My social life isn’t everything! Almost every Saturday night found the Horner family at a local dance, so my normal was an active social life. Then, when a snowstorm hit and we had to stay home, I mourned the loss of not being out and about.

I continued this mindset for most of my adult life, but the coronavirus pandemic forced me to learn balance in that area. Balance provides time with others, then time alone to become acquainted with the most important person in the world, me!

Third nugget of advice

Teenager listening to advic

Not having a boyfriend is okay! AS a teenager, I obsessed about boys, boyfriends, not having one, having one but thought he was the wrong one!

After periods of being single, I realized the importance of being okay as a solo. Then when I remarried, I had lots to offer to the relationship. You are enough!

Fourth snippet of advice

Be proud of your heritage. I remember being ridiculed when we went to Trinidad, Colorado, to shop. The “towny” kids called us “Sh*t kickers” which embarrassed me. Over the last seven years, I have written six books and five of them celebrate my heritage and family. Embrace your history!

Fifth morsel of advice

Don’t sweat the small stuff! Younger Larada worried about everything, spending too much time focussing on the “what ifs?”

“Let go and let God” had become a mantra of mine today, a slogan from recovery.

Last bit of advice

Focus on your spiritual life! As a teenager, I believed in Jesus, but my faith took a backseat. Popularity and peer pressure ruled my life, causing me to make life choices not centered in my faith.

Today, I have a strong faith, seasoned over the years with lots of pain, disappointments, and struggles. As I processed all of this, I leaned in closer and closer to my God.

Finally,

Teenager thinking about advice

The teenage Larada did as well as she could with her limited knowledge. As a crone, I offer my advice, Larada, for your best!

Do you talk to the younger you? If so, what do you say?


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