I Found Some Jewels—Surprise, Surprise!

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Jewels, yes, but not of the sparkling variety! Rummaging through folders on my computer and old journals, I found some of my poems & stories I wrote years ago—some real jewels!

Last year, I decided to gather all my poetry together and I thought I had enough for a three books series from the poetry just on my computer. But something whispered to me last fall—“you used to write with your students at the beginning of class each day.”

My two journals - jewels — My Two Blue Journals From Long Ago

So, out to the storage shed I went, and I knew immediately which box to look in. I found two large blue journals and squealed with delight! Yes, yes, yes! When I brought them into the house, I sat down and opened them, realizing one held my writing from December 7, 1995 to December 2, 1996. The other one dates from April 8, 1997 to May 20, 1997, ending one school year, and from September 4, 1997 to August 28, 1998, covering parts of two school years.

Because of recent life and health issues, I put them in a safe place out of the way but never completely forgot about them. They kept nagging at me!

Last week, they screamed at me, so I grabbed them and brought them upstairs to my computer and started dictating poetry out of the first one. Wow! I liked what I saw—I had written about middle school life and my students, writing, my dad’s death and horses! I caught myself thumbing through the journal and reading the prose, too. To my surprise I found a couple of stories too! So that poetry series might bust through three books to four or more!

Just now, I took a break and went out to the storage shed, thinking there had to be more journals. That thought overwhelmed me though! So far, I’ve dictated thirty poems and I’m not half-way through the first journal! I looked through my box of journals and found four more journals I wrote in with my students. In the same box, I also found personal journals that go back to the mid-80s!

My discoveries in all of this rummaging—I have lots of my personal resources to look through for jewels I can share with you. Also, don’t throw away any of your writing!

Here’s a story I found in the back of my first blue journal, dated December 2, 1996. Last night, I added the ending. Again, I dictated this into a Microsoft Word document. (In the dictation process of the thirty poems, I found out Scrivener, a writing app, also has a dictation tool, so now I dictate my poems straight into Scrivener. At first, I dictated into Word then copy and pasted it into Scrivener. This saves me a step.)

The Elderly Couple

The elderly couple walked into the department store in their small country town to buy a special gift for themselves. Their feeble hands held tightly to each other—a steadying force that kept them both upright.

Her lips were pursed tight, holding back tears, she wouldn’t cry—not here, not now. His brow wedged a wrinkle so hard and tight it looked permanent. Just by their appearance, they faced an uncomfortable mission.

He cleared his throat as he prepared to talk to the clerk. She clasped his arm in her skinny trembling hands.

“Where are the VCRs?“ he asked in a soft, gentle voice.

“In the electronic section in the back of the store,“ she replied, taken back by the couple’s individual weak appearance, yet solid strength as a pair.

Slowly, they wobbled to the TV section, stopping once to catch their breath. Both panted deeply and leaned against each other for support.

Neither one knew what a VCR was, but they were bound to buy one – it was their special gift this year.

As she thought of the reason for the shopping trip, tears streamed down her cheeks. No, she wouldn’t think of it— not now—later, when she was home, and could cry in privacy.

His hands trembled as he wiped the tears from her cheeks with tears streaming down his cheeks, too.

They managed to purchase the VCR and get it home and attached to their TV. The helpful clerk had written out specific instructions for this task, and he followed it precisely. His hand shook as he turned it on and slid the tape in to play.

They moved their chairs closer to the screen. Sitting on the edge of their seats, they awaited the moment— the moment they would see their only granddaughter get married, their only granddaughter who lived 2000 miles away. Because of the distance and health reasons for each of them, they couldn’t attend in person. Their daughter came up with the idea of videotaping the wedding and sending it to them. The wedding had been three weeks ago, and they checked the mail daily for the bulging envelope with the tape. Finally it arrived, but now they had another problem—they didn’t own a VCR. But now they did

With squeals of joy, she clapped her hands together. There she stood, their beautiful granddaughter dressed in white in her grandmother’s wedding gown and her prospective husband, saying those words so familiar.

He whispered, choking back a sob, “She looks just like you did in that dress sixty years ago!” She whimpered a yes in response, knowing how her granddaughter felt in her wedding dress.

The grandparents both mouthed the “I dos,” as the young couple started their life together. When the ceremony ended, he stopped the VCR, and grabbed a Kleenex for both of them.

Yes, they didn’t get to see the ceremony in person, but they got the next best thing—to witness it at long distance and celebrate the beginning of this new life.

Clearing her throat, “I think we’re gonna like this VCR thing,” she said, with a smile.

He nodded in agreement but turned it off as the clerk had instructed him. He returned to his seat beside his wife of many decades, grabbed her hand, and they set silently in the bliss of this moment and remembering theirs from so long ago.

Finally, my writing comes from my heart, and to see what I’ve written before I seriously considered myself a writer astonishes me! I have a question: should I add to this story and enter it into a contest? Let me know!

Do you have any hidden jewels you can dust off and share with the world? Do it and let me know!

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I Witnessed Branson’s Birth!

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IIn 2009, I witnessed the birth of my great nephew, Branson Layne. This special event has connections back to July 2005. Here’s what happened!

In July 2005, my sister-in-law died. At the time, her youngest daughter was pregnant with her first child, due in October. My niece asked me if I would come and be with her when her baby came the evening of her mom’s memorial service—to step in for her mom! In a mixture of sorrow and joy, tears and laughter, I said, “YES!”

To understand the importance of this for me, I have no children. So, this offered me the experience of childbirth—yes, from an observer’s point-of-view, but a full view of the experience, and the opportunity to assist my dear niece.

So, I saved my Southwest points so I could fly to California at the drop of hat. As her due date neared, I packed a bag to be ready! I was so excited! At 6:00 AM on October 4, 2005, I got the call. Her water broke—it was here! Immediately, I booked a flight with my points, got to the airport and flew away, hoping to be there on time. I’m the eternal optimist!

The sad news: I landed in Sacramento, California when he came, and they lived a couple hours away, so no first-hand experience with his birth. However, I did enjoy being there within hours of his birth. Also, I stayed several days to help out as best I could, and I loved it!

Fast forward, four years. My niece announced her pregnancy of her second child and had two possible due dates—December 19 & 21 because he was measuring “big.” Again, she asked me to be present at his birth—this looked promising. Being a teacher, I got out of school for Christmas break, Friday, December 18. I didn’t want to miss this one.

So, I flew out that weekend, and the waiting game began. Her due dates came and went. Her husband and I walked her around Walmart to get things stirred up. No, not yet. My poor niece looked miserable. We had pizza; we walked. We did everything we could think of to bring that baby out, but nothing worked.

Christmas 2009 came and went. My brother and I attended Midnight Mass at the Catholic church in their small town on Christmas Eve. What a memorable night that was! I barely remember Christmas day, with my eyes and heart glued on my niece.

December 26 passed by slowly at a snail’s pace. My niece had been told that they would induce the baby on December 27 and to be at the hospital at 8:00 AM. She had trouble sleeping that night, so excited, so they arrived there at 7:30 AM. As soon as she got her hospital gown on, she felt a huge “pop.” She said it felt like a champagne bottle uncorking. Her water broke and it was starting.

My niece's husband continued to walk her - I witness — My niece’s husband continued to walk her

My brother and I got the phone call we’d been waiting for. I grabbed my camera and off to the hospital we went. Even though her water broke, her husband continued walking her! Her painful agony broke my heart—such pain. Shortly support arrived: my nephew’s wife and a close girlfriend. Both of these women supported her through the birth process. My nephew sat out in the waiting room with his two young daughters with my brother. I took a seat in the background, in awe, and took lots of pictures because I wanted to have a record of this event.

Originally my niece asked for no epidural prior to the birth as a part of her birth plan, however she begged for one in the midst of it all because of the severe pain, but our little boy came too quickly so she was able to have him without it.

My niece had a wonderful relationship with her doctor which made it all so much better. When Branson was born, the doctor allowed me to move in close and take amazing pictures. What an absolute miracle birth is! I had never realized how thick the umbilical cord is!

Branson came into the world screaming—such a welcoming sound when you’re waiting for a baby to be born. And the whole birth wasn’t as bloody as I thought it would be! The nurse gave him to his momma to cuddle close. Then the nurse took him aside to a place with bright lights to do all the necessary tasks for a new born—clean him up some, put salve in his eyes and measure him. They let me photograph it all! I was in heaven. This big strapping boy weighed in at 9 pounds, 6 ounces! She also measured his head—interesting! And he continued to cry!

After all the necessary medical things, his dad held him for the first time, admiring his new son. Then his auntie held him and thrilled at him. They brought his four-year-old brother in to see him for the first time and the meeting was precious! Our family and the young couple’s friends surrounded our new born Branson. Finally, I got to hold him—what a miracle! Following me, my brother—Poppa got to hold his new grandson!

It was time for Branson to feed, so my niece put him to her breast for his first feeding. Then another friend came by.

Branson's First Bath with Aunt Larada - I witnessed — Branson’s First Bath with Aunt Larada

Then they gave him his first bath and he screamed some more. The parade of relatives continued when another uncle and aunt came to meet his new nephew. And his other grandad came also. This was truly a family celebration!

It all felt so surreal to watch this unfold before me—Branson’s birth and the expression of love and celebration by so many.

We brought Branson home the next day, and family continued to surround them with love. Then on December 31, 2009, he ended up back in the hospital with jaundice. They put him under certain medical rays in a “blue box” to combat the jaundice, protecting his eyes with covers. My niece and I spent the night in the hospital with him, and we donned silly 2010 sunglasses trying to stay positive. Branson was released the next day—New Year’s Day.

The day I left, our family met at their favorite restaurant, and we celebrated our new youngster. I choked up, not wanting to leave this family and their two boys!

Aunt Larada with Jace, Branson’s older brother

Now fourteen years later, as I prepared for this blog, I so enjoyed going back through my pictures and reliving this special time for me. This young couple gave me a gift of a lifetime—seeing Branson’s birth touched me deeply and quieted a deep sadness I’d felt for so many years.

Finally, I witnessed Branson’s birth, certainly a privilege. Have you ever witnessed a birth? If so, how did you feel?

Here’s Branson above the town of Branson, Colorado at the Saddlerock picnic area in 2022! Just an aside—he’s named after the town I grew up in—Branson, Colorado!

Branson, 2022 - I witnessed — Branson, 2022

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Sample a Slice of my New Book!

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Sample, sample, sample! Here’s another chapter of my new book, Hair on Fire: A Heartwarming & Humorous Christmas Memoir.

Chapter 8: What Are Your Christmas Traditions?

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In my country childhood, we had many Christmas traditions: the fun and adventure of cutting down a tree from our ranch, hilarious Christmas programs at the church and school, and fun-filled Christmas caroling around our small town. Our family dominated this holiday’s focus.

My dad’s parents lived just across town, so most of my childhood Christmas Eves were spent at their house.

Christmas at the Horners’

It was a big affair,
especially when Granddad got all
sixteen grandchildren together.
That meant a holiday house full.

Each year, my Christmas outfit was always special.
One year
a white dress with a gathered skirt,
trimmed in red,
made by Mom.

Grandma, decked out in her festive apron,
worried over the meal.
She made the best mashed potatoes,
smothered in butter.
Granddad’s job came after dinner.

The table was set on the porch so
we could all fit,
a long line of smiles and laughter.

For those of us who knew the tradition,
anticipation set in.
We tried to hurry the process,
with no success.

Finally, after a leisurely cup of coffee and a cigarette,
Granddad would disappear to the front door.

His shout rang through the whole house!
It had begun.

“I just saw Santa Claus fly over. Come quick.”

We’d race to the front door,
and
he would race to the back door.

“No, no, he’s out here now. Come this way.”

We’d race to the back door.
This would go on for
what seemed like eternity,
and I never did see Santa, a reindeer,
or his sleigh.
I was always a second too late!
But this also meant that it was time
to open our gifts that had mysteriously spilled out from
under the Christmas tree.

A traditional Christmas with the Horners meant
cousins,
aunts and uncles,
sometimes great aunts
from Tulsa, Oklahoma,
good food,
lots of laughter,
and
traditions that filled my heart with joy and
family connection!

Larada Horner-Miller, This Tumbleweed Landed (2014): 67-68.

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Flowers and Fun: Lin’s Garden Party!

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Lin in his rose garden - flowers — Lin in his rose garden

Beautiful flowers and laughter! Last Saturday, July 8, 2023, we held our second annual Garden Party. We played garden and flower music while friends toured Lin’s beautiful creation. Raves abounded for Lin’s hard work. What a glorious day! And the weather cooperated—showers in the morning and a partly cloudy afternoon! Perfect!

This all started after the pandemic, and some friends wanted to come and see Lin’s garden. His pictures on Facebook piqued their curiosity because they saw how he had enlarged it over the pandemic. In reality, he expanded it 2/3 during this time of staying home, adding a pond and lots of decorative rock to landscape extensive areas to help control weeds. So, we had our first garden party last year, and it turned out fantastic.

Preparation for 2023 Garden Party

Right after last year’s success, we didn’t hesitate. “Let’s repeat it.” This year, we started planning early. A lot of Lin’s work in the garden in the spring and early summer focused on a completion date before the “Garden Party.” At first, we had two dates picked: June 17 or July 8. July 8 won because Lin wanted more time to prepare things, and he wanted more flowers blooming than last year. Last year, we had it on July 23 and several had already bloomed.

Lin worked hard from early spring until the day before the event, finishing a path around the back of the garden the Thursday before the big day.

Our preparation for our refreshments included cutting back on the number of watermelon we bought. Last year, we bought six and ended up giving whole watermelons away at the end. This year three sufficed. I also baked three batches of brownies. For drinks, we had flavored Pellegrino drinks and ice-cold water and lemonade.

Last year, a friend said, “You’ve got to play Ricky Nelson’s ‘Garden Party’,” so I looped it on my iPad and played it all afternoon. No one complained. For this year, I had been googling other garden and flower songs. Saturday morning, Lin asked me to add six or seven to “Garden Party,” so I did. What an eclectic list I came up with:

Garden/Flower Playlist

“Garden Party” – Ricky Nelson
“I Never Promised You a Rose Garden” – Lynn Anderson
“English Country Garden” – Jimmie Rodgers
“You Don’t Bring Me Flowers” – Neil Diamond
“Octopus Garden” – The Beatles
“Edelweiss” – Julie Andrews & Cast from Sound of Music
“In the Garden” – Elvis Presley
“The Flowers Will Never Die” – Elton John

When our party ended, we had about thirty-five garden lovers come by. What a treat seeing people wandering around Lin’s beautiful creation, oohing and aahing. When time allowed, many people received personal tours with Lin explaining the design and naming flowers. Then, after touring, they gathered in the shade for refreshments and visiting. We had people from different clubs we belong to and work friends of mine. So, many visitors didn’t know each other, but their garden interests brought them together.

Before the event, I wrote several haikus, so I shared a hard copy with our visitors.

LARADA’S HAIKU ABOUT LIN’S GARDEN

Could this be heaven?

Birds, chirping, flowers blooming.

What could be better?

Red, pink, purple, green,

Yellow, and peach flowers bloom!

I could dance for joy!

The world the gardener makes

has plants I have never known.

Lin creates magic!

Lin’s garden is an

oasis to rest my soul!

His flowers bathe me!

Lin has created

a sanctuary for us.

Welcome, come join us!

My words above don’t show the splendor of Lin’s garden enough for me, so here’s a video and a collage of pictures. Enjoy!

Here’s the video tour of Lin’s garden:

Lin’s Flower Beds

Some Lin’s Gorgeous Individual Flowers

Finally,

I’m one lucky lady to wake up in the morning and see this paradise! Most summer mornings, I walk around with my cat and marvel at all the beautiful flowers. I know how much work Lin puts into it! Thank you Lin!

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Stop! Let’s Celebrate My 70 Years!

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Stop! This week, on June 27, 2023, I celebrated my 70^th birthday, and I have interrupted my Scotland trip-focus with a celebration of me!

A Poem I Wrote About My Birth

In my book, This Tumbleweed Landed, I wrote a poem about my birth story. I don’t know about you, but I heard this story often, and it naturally became a poem. Key phrases throughout the poem I heard from my parents frequently and swelled with pride. The repeating of my birth story cemented in my soul and spirit how much my parents wanted and celebrated me. Enjoy!

Larada Reading Her Poem, “I Was Born Dancing”

A Ring to Celebrate My Heritage and Me

Last week, I went to Branson, Colorado to visit our family ranch, my brother and friends. On Tuesday, my brother walked into my house, moved to the breakfast bar and handed me a small unwrapped box, saying, “This is your birthday present from me and my kids.” That’s the way he does his gifts—no wrapping, but a lot of thought and love put into the gift.

I gasped—it was a ring with reversible stones. On one side was my dad’s brand and on the other was my granddad’s brand! But in my fuzzy stupor from the pain pills I’m on, I thought it was a slide for a necklace.

Fast forward to Thursday, we went to the Walmart in Trinidad and then had lunch to celebrate my upcoming birthday. While in Walmart I looked at silver necklaces for the slide.

After shopping, I said to my brother while eating, “I looked at necklaces for the slide you all gave me at Walmart, but I found nothing. I’ll go to a jewelry store in Albuquerque and buy one.”

Not looking at me, he stated, “It’s a ring, not a slide. Remember, I asked you if you wanted to try it on when I gave it to you!”

Again, I gasped! I apologized and asked him about how crazy I must have seemed to him!

More to This Ring Story!

How foolish am I! In March, my brother and I had looked at Calvin Begay’s jewelry in Trinidad, and he had reversible rings like this. I have been a Calvin Begay fan for years! I have one of his rings, and we just finished buying three beautiful expensive pieces from Calvin! It all made sense now.

He added, “It is from me and my three kids. They helped pay for it!”

Quickly, I texted my nephew and two nieces and apologized for the delay in my thanking them and told them the story. They got a big laugh out of it, and Cheryl added, “Lol! Now it will always make you smile for sure!”

Seventy, yes, but this brain fog came from the pain medicine, I know. So, I went to my house in Branson and put the gorgeous ring on and marveled at the fit—like Calvin Begay made for me! LOL! He did!

My brother and niece had texted me early in June with a bet between them on whether her ring finger was bigger or smaller than mine. I thought nothing about it! When I texted my apology, she added, “The story about our ring size being the same was a fake!”

My Delightful Day

After returning home to Tijeras on Monday, I woke up to my husband, Lin, singing happy birthday to me. Then he presented me with a beautiful bouquet, card and a generous gift to help finance my part of our trip to Germany in September.

I had a delightful morning. I led a meditation group on Facebook Live I love and shared my poem about my birth and a Mary Oliver poem about being 70.

Self-Portrait

I wish I was twenty and in love with live

            And still full of beans.


Onward, old legs!

There are the long, pale dunes; on the other side

The roses are blooming and finding their labor

No adversity to the spirit.


Upward, old legs! There are the roses, and there is the sea.

Shining like a song, like a body

I want to touch


Though I’m not twenty 

and won’t be again but ah! seventy. And still

In love with life. And still

Full of beans.

Mary Oliver, Devotions: The Selected Poems of Mary Oliver, (2017): 117.

Then I attended a weekly book coaching session on Zoom. Afterwards, Lin took me out to lunch and we had delicious Mexican food in Cedar Crest at Mariachi’s. After lunch, we went next door to the Paris Bakery, and he bought French pastries for dessert.

When we got home, we ate those delicacies, watched a TV show, and I fell asleep—a deep relaxed sleep like I haven’t in a long time.

A Surprise Square Dance Party

Lin had warned me a couple time not to look in the Tahoe—I figured it was more birthday stuff. He also told me he had a hearing aid appointment at 4:30 PM, so we’d have to drive separately to the square dance that night in Albuquerque.

He left while I was sleeping and I slept for over two hours, forcing myself to wake up and get something to eat before the dance.

When I got to the hall about 6:50 PM, Lin met me at the door and I knew something was up. Then I saw a “Happy Birthday” banner over the door. He guided me through the door, and the people said, “Surprise! Happy Birthday!”

Shocked with my mouth open, I realized what this was—a surprise square dance party for me! I received hug after hug and lots of well wishes.

Lin’s smile and twinkling eyes made me laugh—he was proud of himself for getting me—for surprising me! I couldn’t stop smiling.

Lin’s color selection for the tables had sweet, poignant reasons—purple for my mom (her favorite color) and purple for our wedding.

He guided me to the food table to show me a beautiful Pastian’s bakery cake. It had on it, “Happy Birthday Larada, Greg and Lynn.” Greg and Lynn Tillery—a square dance caller in Albuquerque and his wife also turned 70 this year! Lin explained he had invited them to, but he had to tell Greg about the surprise. But Lynn didn’t know.

When they arrived and received greetings from the group, Lynn said, “It’s not my birthday!” So my Lin explained it to her about the surprise for her.

But the surprises weren’t over for me! Someone tapped me on the shoulder and it was Bob Osse, Lin’s best friend, from Arizona. He had his wife on FaceTime to share her greetings. She wanted to join us but had a family tragedy during the week and was attending to that.

Gordon, Gloria, Larada, Lin and Sandra - Friends from Utah! Stop — Gordon, Gloria, Larada, Lin and Sandra – Friends from Utah!

Then dear friends Gloria Schwab and Sandra and Gordon from Utah came in. On their way home from the National Square Dance Convention, they contacted Jerry Gilbreath about a Tuesday night dance. He told them about the surprise party! Whew!

During a break between square dance tips, Jerry sang the George Strait song Lin had played to me at our wedding, “I Cross My Heart.” So we got to do a little two-stepping!

Here’s a funny part—I handle contracts for dances at the dance hall. Jerry usually calls on the first and third Tuesdays, but about a month ago he called and asked if he could add a dance on the last Tuesday, June 27, my birthday. Because it was open, I said yes and thought, “Yahoo! We will get to square dance on my birthday!” Little did I know. . .

So, let’s stop here. I’d like to end with some haikus I wrote on my 70^th birthday and the wisdom.

Seventy is here.

Yesterday sixty-nine, so?

Does one day change me?

Did I change in my

sleep? A decade older now.

I’m still Larada.

How should I act now?

Does seventy deem me old?

The same and hell, no!

I can’t hold on to

My youth, but I can stay young!

It’s my choice, so YES!

So stop! I will get back to the end of our trip to Scotland next week, but I couldn’t pass this celebration up!

How do you see someone at seventy? Is that old? Do you have a birthday story? Share it with me!

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Moms Everywhere: Bless You!

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Bless you, Moms everywhere! This day slows downs, steps aside from the rush and the hurry, and celebrates moms everywhere! You are the backbone of our worlds! I’ve never been a mom, but I marvel at how you do it all: the laundry, the meals, the housecleaning and the job! It’s beyond my comprehension!

So, I want to salute my dear mom once more! I never tire of writing about her. I remember her perky personality and giggles that often caused me to giggle. Then a chain reaction of laughter filled the room. As I wrote this, I pondered her as a young mother, the mother I don’t remember!

How Did You Manage?

How did you manage?

My heart beat next to yours

For nine months.

I felt what you felt

Your loves and fears

Ate what you ate

Spicy food often

Loved what you loved

Dancing, dancing and Dad!

My world was you!

I always knew you wanted me!

Never a doubt!

You didn’t know I was a girl

The daughter that would complete

your family!

Quickly everything changed

For me!

My comfortable world

Of warm

Fluid

And you!

My birth came

You square danced the night

Before I was born!

Doing what you and Dad loved!

Did you feel any pain

When Dad twirled you that night?

Did your big belly bounce

To the beat of the music?

Is this why I love to dance?

Was my birth hard?

You never spoke of the pain

Only the glory!

You welcomed me into your family

A dad who cherished me,

A brother, thirteen months older than me

A baby himself

Three half-siblings who saw me

As the spoiled baby!

A young mother of twenty-five,

I wonder how you managed,

Me, a new born

My brother, so close to my age!

Really two babies!

How did you manage?

Did you have many sleepless nights?

Did you have arms aching from holding

Two sleeping babies?

Did the mounting heap of diapers

Seem to never end?

You never spoke of the responsibility,

Only the glory!

You managed

Like all mothers do!

You did what you had to do,

Washed diapers,

Filled bottles with milk.

You marveled at my

Small fingers wrapped

Around yours!

And you loved

Every minute!

Yes, you managed!

You managed well!

Writing poetry always puts me in another dimension in thinking about a familiar topic. I thought I had written everything there was to say. I have written several poems about mom, an entire book about losing her, yet here, in a fresh moment, these words came.

Finally,

Happy Mother’s Day, Moms—how do you manage it all? You just do it and love every minute.

Celebrate your mom today and remember her on this special day!

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Occasions in Life: Write Poetry!

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All occasions are an occasion to write a poem—Christmas presents, graduation presents and even a wedding gift for my husband.

I wrote the following poem for my great nephew in 2019 when I couldn’t attend his graduation because I was sick. It comes to mind today because I just returned from Columbus, Georgia, where I attended his graduation from Army boot camp. Quite an occasion! As I watched him these past few days with his friends, I remembered the theme of this poem and needed to share it.

An Occasion Then

The Man I Choose to Be

May 24, 2019

Everyone comes to cross roads

In life

Those defining moments

Last night was one for you!

High school graduation!

Yes, a big and memorable one!

You’ve made the choice over

The last twelve years

To attend

To be present

To do the work

And last night you received the reward!

Family and friends surrounded you

To cheer

To shed a tear or two

To honor

You!

The last twelve years defined you.

I’ve seen your effect on people.

After ball games, swarmed

By admiring friends, old and young.

A smile graced your lips

Even if you lost.

Deep down inside a winner

No matter what!

The commitment to people

You have is admirable,

And people love you for it!

Your life hasn’t been easy.

For several years, I seldom saw you.

Your life unfolded

With jagged edges.

Then your move to Floydada

Truly a gift from God; we reconnected.

I treasure each moment we have spent together

On the ranch

Looking for mountain lions

At the house

Playing a rousing game of Pip

Those memories will last a lifetime.

Now the future looms ahead

Large and unimaginable!

Where to go? What to do?

Today and tomorrow,

You choose the man

You want to be!

It won’t come easily.

Temptations may lure you

To veer off course.

Your future is connected to your past.

Don’t let feelings rule your life.

Feelings come and go.

But they don’t have to control you.

Be hypervigilant with one especially –

Anger

Anger is just a feeling,

Like so many others,

Yet powerful and seductive.

Deal with it, face it,

Get it out

However you can to heal.

You have a guide,

A friend,

A man to emulate,

Jesus

And I know you know him personally.

I know you.

You’ll choose to be the man

God created you to be!

I remember a gentle loving

Young man who cared

For Aunt Willie in Branson

One Christmas!

She always asked about you!

A loving man in the makings!

Yes, you will face a crossroads or two ahead.

Which way?

Right or

Left?

My suggestion—

Always choose you and God!

An Occasion Now

As I watched my great nephew after the Blue ceremony on Thursday, this poem came to mind because once again he has chosen well! Other young men flocked to him—either a light touch on the shoulder acknowledging their connection or a full-fledged frontal attack of a bear hug! Once again, he connected deeply with his peers. During bootcamp, they gave him a leadership role, so he continues to embrace “the man he chooses to be” in a positive vein. I also saw two young men drive a distance to be with him on this momentous occasion who had been his roommate before enlisting! Deep connections! My poem identifies his characteristics that draw people to him.

Poetry record specific occasions, special times, and I didn’t have another one in me on this recuperation-from-a-travel day that could say any better what I said a short four years ago. I love the spirit of this poem and how it points to a man to emulate—Jesus! And that it’s my choice to become the man or woman God created me to be! I can’t blame circumstances or events for the way I turned out—the power lives in my choice!

Finally

Any occasion whispers to me to write a poem to commemorate it. As I ponder images and words, the message usually surprises me! That’s the joy of writing, especially poetry!

How do you commemorate special occasions in your life? Photos? Yes, I take lots of photos, too! Poems? Narratives? Think about sharing them with your loved ones as a special gift—the gift of words!

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Three Aunts to Celebrate!

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I have three aunts in my life who touched me deeply—Dad’s two sisters and Mom’s sister. Each one influenced me in different ways. Meet them here!

Aunt Helen

Aunt Helen, born October 18, 1919, one year after my dad had a similar close relationship with Dad I have with my brother. We are thirteen months apart.

My brother and Mom have often compared my drive and personality to Aunt Helen. She became a teacher after another career and worked hard to get her master’s degree during the summer for several years.

She lived near Spokane, WA, so I savored those summers because Uncle Gay and she came to Colorado with their twins. Her husband and she went to Alamosa to go to college and left the twins with my grandparents in the town we lived in. Uncle Gay and Aunt Helen visited on the weekends, staying with my grandparents. I idolized her, the way she dressed, her hairstyle and everything about her. A cigarette dangled from her lips often, which was stylish then. I loved having her here for those summer months.

Like her, I changed careers and became a teacher and then got my masters.

Many years passed, and I was fortunate enough at the end of her life to help her and her children. She celebrated holidays with us and my brother’s families, but she was so sick. I helped her and her sons during that time, and always felt it a privilege. Sadly, we lost Aunt Helen at 56 years old, way too young to breathing complications.

Aunt Helen showed me the strength, hard work and determination it took to do what you wanted to do.

Aunt Joan

Aunt Joan, born May 29, 1928, joined the Horner family ten years after Dad’s birth. As a young woman, she took to roping and Dad often said she could out rope him any day. When she was the rodeo queen for the Trinidad Rodeo, she did a roping demo before the rodeo that wowed the crowd.

She raised six children and lost one child at birth. Her life centered on her family.

As a child, I interacted little with Aunt Joan because she was busy with her own children, but as an adult, we had many memorable times together. She completely supported my books writing and bought many copies of my books to share with her family.

When she talked to me, she often called me “Rada,” which was a nickname of mine during my childhood—what an endearing act!

In her 90s, Aunt Joan joined us on Zoom during the pandemic and managed it amazingly. She lived a long happy life!

Aunt Joan showed me a genuine delight any time she saw me. I always felt so welcome in her presence.

Aunt Willie

Aunt Willie, born November 7, 1920, was Mom’s older sister. During my childhood, she and Uncle Hughie lived in Albuquerque, New Mexico (maybe why I ended up there). She retired from Sandia Labs and moved closer to her daughter to Folsom, New Mexico, and lived there for years.

As a child, Uncle Hughie and she spoiled my brother and I—we were her only niece and nephew on her side of the family. Big Kat fireworks for the 4^th of July. Many family picnics and times together. They introduced me to fishing, which became a favorite pastime for years!

Again, I was privileged to actively take part in an aunt’s life. At the end of her life, I see her maneuver from this life to the next. I learned from her that assisted living facilities resemble junior high antics. She taught me that a sense of humor doesn’t have to die when you age.

Aunt Willie showed me often her love through words, actions and a twinkle in her eye!

Finally,

My three powerful aunts throughout my life showed me how to be the woman I am today. I feel fortunate to have been so blessed.

Did you have any aunts in your life that touched you? If so, how?

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Celebrate Women This Month!

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March—Women’s History Month! Did you know that? What a thrilling discovery! So, over the next four weeks, I plan on celebrating four women in my life and history. Some are dead; some are still alive! It doesn’t matter because they still have had an intact on me!

First, here’s a great resource with pictures from Dr. Carla Hayden, 14^th Librarian of Congress to Sojourner Truth, three-quarter length portrait, standing, wearing spectacles, shawl and peaked cap, right hand resting on cane. What a wide variety of pictures of women in our history. Look at: https://womenshistorymonth.gov/about/

Now, more focused for me—where else would I start the celebration of women? My Mom—Elva Marie Dickerson Horner. Celebrating her this month has a poignant ring to it—she died March 23, 2013, ten years ago! In so many ways, that’s hard to believe! It seems longer; yet it seems like yesterday.

On March 23, 2013, at 5:10 pm, Dad and Jesus won—Dad had waited up there for seventeen long years to dance with the love of his life again. Jesus agreed with him, and the pull towards heaven won, and Mom passed from this world to the next.

Let’s Start at the Beginning

Elva Marie Dickerson Horner was born on September 24, 1928 to Virgil and Tresia Dickerson in Des Moines, NM. Mom joined her 9-year-old sister, Willa Lee.

Aunt Willie and Mom - women — Aunt Willie and Mom

Being the youngest child in the Dickerson home, Willa Lee tells a story about Mom: “when we went to the post office she would lie down on me—on the ground and throw a fit. I reached inside the fence and got me a switch. (Pause) She didn’t do that again.”

Living through the depression, Mom endured a hard life, living in a shack with dirt floors. Grandma would wet the dirt down and pack it hard, and Mom got in trouble for digging little holes afterwards.

Her Marriage and Family Life is Coming!

Mom loved to dance her whole life. A certain cowboy caught her eye at a dance. She noticed his unique dance style. At the Robin Hood Bar in Raton, New Mexico, he crossed the dance floor towards her. She knew he was going to ask her to dance. Then she panicked, and the romance of a lifetime started with Harold Horner, my dad. They dated; they danced!

Dad and Mom on their wedding day - women — Dad and Mom on their wedding day

Then, Dad and Mom were married on August 28, 1951 in Raton, New Mexico. Their married life that would span 45 years had begun. Mom immediately became stepmother to three small children and faced the trials of being a stepmom, but the children lived with their mom in Denver. They visited Mom and Dad regularly.

As newlyweds, they moved in with Dad’s parents in Branson, Colorado, and experience a small-town tradition—chevarier. Friends short-sheeted the beds, removed labels off all the canned goods, and Mom, the bride, had a wheelbarrow ride around town. Dad’s parents had the joy (and despair) of sharing this country tradition and all the effects.

Then Dad and Mom bought their own first home from the Stephenson’s a few months later—lock, stock & barrel. After the birth of my brother and me (thirteen months later), Mom’s family was intact! Her family grew with marriages, then nine grandchildren came, and then fifteen great grandchildren. She celebrated each addition to our family, so I witnessed a woman dedicated to her family.

Mom cherished family get-togethers and holidays. Her father-in-law, Laurence, loved to have family get-togethers at our house because of Mom’s cooking and hospitality!

Her Life in The Community

Lots of life happened in Branson through the years. Mom enjoyed not only her own children, but my brother’s and my friends in the community. She was happiest when her kitchen and adjacent dining room were full of young people. Mom maintained close relationships with many of these children into their adulthood.

After Granddad Horner died, Mom became Dad’s right-hand man, able to do anything on the ranch. She worked hard! In fact, in 1989, she fell off of a haystack and broke her wrist when I was teaching in Raton, New Mexico, right before shipping time. So, several rancher’s wives and I stepped in and helped cook and serve the meal to the shipping crew.

As Dad’s health worsened, I watched Mom lovingly cared for him until the end. What an example of dedicated love!

Mom’s Interests

Mom had a variety of interests:

She was an avid sports fan of all Branson sports. When Bub played, she yelled loudly at basketball games, drowning out other parents. For many years, Mom sat in the same place every game with a dear friend.

In the 70s, Mom got interested in genealogy and researched both the Dickerson and Horner sides extensively. In 1999, we traveled to Eastern Europe because of her genealogy interests, looking for connections to her granddad, who immigrated here as a castaway with no records of entry into the US. Today, I cherish her black ledger with all of her records. I joined her in this interest and have entered her data into an app on my computer, Family Tree Maker.

Girlfriends have been a part of Mom’s life forever: Ellen Berry in high school; Clara Warner, Nancy Salas & Mokey McMillan years ago; Helen Waldroup; Betty Clark and Rose Ward.

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Mom had an abiding faith and became baptized and a faithful member of the Des Moines, New Mexico Methodist church, attending every Sunday with her niece and her husband. She looked forward to the time after church when a group went to a local restaurant for lunch—and a little gossiping! Her faith lasted until the end.

All of us have evidence of Mom’s beautiful handiworks: afghans, quilts, Christmas ornaments and more.

I remember Mom as quite the prankster—she loved a good practical joke. If you fell asleep at her house in the living room, a good chance you would end up with whipped cream on your nose! That is just one of her many tricks!

Often when I was with Mom, I enjoyed the privilege of hearing her laughter, so rich and inviting, seeing her eyes twinkle and her joy for living.

Mom and I in our matching Christmas Outfits - women — Mom and I in our matching Christmas Outfits

As you can see, Mom touched my life and many others. She formed me and others to be the women we are today, and I will be forever grateful for my mom! So be sure to celebrate the women in your life this month by doing something special for them.

Mom’s Purple Bear

Recently my husband, Lin, went through our house collecting things for a rummage sale for the Garden Center in Albuquerque. I had a purple bear on the bed in our guest bedroom I gave Mom in her dying days. Somehow the purple bear ended up in a stack of stuffed toys, and he took it to the rummage sale to sell.

Afterwards we were in the guest bedroom, and I looked at bed and realized the purple bear had disappeared. Then I looked at the top of the bookshelf where the other various stuffed toys had ended and they were gone. I realized our house cleaners probably put the bear up with the others innocently.

When I told him where I thought the precious purple bear ended up, he returned to the sale before it started, went through bags and found it. He received cheers from the workers there because he had told them, “I have to save my marriage. I have to find that bear!”

Mom embrace that bear tightly in the hospital after I gave it to her, and we kept it near her until her dying day. Lin blessed my heart with his extreme effort to retrieve it!

Finally,

What women are you celebrating this month? Have you even thought about it? Which woman has influenced you? Why?

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Good or Bad? Inherited My Family Home!

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I inherited my family home my parents bought in 1967. Now I own it after my mom died in 2013. Is it good or bad?

I just finished cleaning the bathroom in the house I inherited. Mom, Lin and I painted it and put up the trim in 2010. I hear our laughter as we looked and looked for western trim to put up, but couldn’t find any with horses or anything western. We settled for a floral trim. Then the painting took quite a lot of effort because of the high ceilings in there—ladders, stretching and camaraderie. Mom and I worked hard as we measured and cut the trim, yet I remember laughter and lightness in our task.

Because this is a second house, I kept so much of her accents and things—she whispers to me softly anywhere I go in this lovely old house. Good or bad? I feel lucky to still have so much of her with me.

Back to the bathroom—Mom collected frogs, so frogs dance across the top of the cabinet. Another statue sits below on a shelf, a friendly group of frogs shampooing each other’s hair. A frog-etched glass hangs over the door, greeting everyone as they enter.

Mom’s sense-of-humor dons one wall with a couple hangings with funny quips that still make me laugh:

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Over the years since she died, I have done a lot of needed remodeling in the bathroom, but I kept up the trim we put up together—nostalgic for sure! However, recently I have looked at the paint color and trim and thought about alternatives, so I see a change in my future.

Traveling through the rest of the house,

Mom continues to speak to me in a variety of places. The year she died, she hung a pillowcase of a picture of my brother, she and me at a San Francisco Giants’ game over her dresser in the bedroom. Mom and I have on panda bear hats which celebrated a Giants’ player then, and my brother bought them for us. Absolute delight shines in all of our eyes! How did she get it up over the dresser in her frail state? I gave it to her for Christmas her last year, and it was a pillowcase—I wanted her to put it on her bed, but she was determined to put it where she wanted it! Good or bad?

I face this picture/pillowcase every night when I go to bed and every morning when I wake up. What a delightful remembrance of such a fun day and my dear mom and brother (and my husband who took the picture)!

As I type this,

I sit at the breakfast bar in the dining room facing the kitchen, where Mom spent most of her time. What a cook she was! After she passed, I thought about remodeling the kitchen and putting in a dishwasher. Yes, she only had a dishwasher for a short time in her long career in the kitchen, and Lin suggested it, seeing how much time I spent in the kitchen washing dishes after family gatherings. As I talked to the remodeler, he easily said something about removing the cabinets. I agreed for the moment.

Then when he left, I opened one cabinet with all her spices lined up and saw her handwriting on the inside of the door and knew I couldn’t do it. So, I bought a portable dishwasher and put down new linoleum as my remodeling for the time being.

Finally,

I inherited our home I lived in from my 7^th year of school until now, overflowing with memories of mom and dad. Good or bad? Deeply, I feel how good this is because it is my heritage.

Do you have a connection to a house in your life? A childhood house? Your first home as a young married? Share your experience.

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