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Father’s Day: An Early June Celebration

Happy Father's Day - early

Let’s start early on celebrating Father’s Day. Yes, it’s two weeks away, but I want to share my father with you, Harold Horner and his story and how it unfolded.

Where Dad Started

Harold Horner was born in Tulsa, Oklahoma on March 20, 1918, the eldest child of Laurence and Pearle and the first grandchild, celebrated and spoiled by both sides of the family. Because of Dad having “a touch of tuberculosis” that turned into asthma, his family doctor encouraged his young parents to relocate to a higher and drier climate. Such a twist of fate!

I can’t imagine the heartbreak for both sets of grandparents as the possibility of a move of this couple and their children hundreds of miles away loomed overhead. And what about my grandparents? They had lived near their parents their whole lives, but the health of their eldest won out.

Granddad carried the mail in Tulsa after trying his hand at a bike repair business with his brother. Way before the internet, he somehow connected with Mr. Bass in Branson, Colorado and they exchanged jobs. I have idea how they connected, but they did, and the wheels started turning.

Travel in the 1920s

What the trip from Oklahoma to Colorado might have looked like! - early
What the trip from Oklahoma to Colorado might have looked like!

In April 1927 my grandparents, my nine-year-old dad and my eight-year-old aunt left Tulsa, Oklahoma’s tree lined streets to Branson, Colorado in an awesome old car, probably a Model T or A. I don’t know for sure—I’ve seen pictures. As I’ve thought of this, I marveled at my grandparents’ adventuresome spirit.

Was this move necessity in their eyes? I will never know. I do know my grandmother never adjusted to the plains and canyons of Branson and blamed my dad for this move his whole life. Standing at the window, looking out over the vast tree less prairie, she yearned for the tree-lined streets of Tulsa and the green.

Dad never spoke of this journey to me. I just can’t imagine making that five hundred miles then in that car. In a car today, Google says it would take about eight hours. Google AI overview says it would have taken them 14-20 days in the 1920s. I never asked Granddad or Dad how long it took.

Dangers of the Trip

Google AI overview also notes that they would have faced unpaved road networks with dirt or gravel roads. They may have faced mud slippery roads in April. Or they could have faced a spring blizzard, wind and snow drifts.

As “the early automobiles like the Ford Model A or T required frequent maintenance, and flat tires were a daily hazard on rough western roads,” another obstacle followed them. The last issue they faced was the lack of the amazing infrastructure we know today. “Services like gas stations, mechanics, and motels were sparse. Travelers often had to carry extra cans of fuel, motor oil, and spare inner tubes.”

Taking a break from writing, I shared the topic with my husband, Lin. He asked about the speed limit in the 20s. Again, I ran to Google and found out in the AI Overview no federal speed limit existed. On the dusty country roads, my granddad would have driven, the speed limit would have been between 30 and 35 mph on the rural dirt roads. Imagine that! In our 75-80 mph world of today, that seems impossible. No wonder it took so long to travel the five hundred miles.

Where Dad Ended Up

So, at nine years old, Dad and his family started a new life on the plains of southeastern Colorado. He adapted quickly to the rural life and immediately acquired a horse. Horses and the country living became his life.

Dad saw a T.B. specialist in Colorado Springs, Colorado—176 miles away. It would have taken 10-14 hours to travel dirt roads there, so it was another lengthy trip for the times. The T.B. was arrested, but he lived with asthma as a child.

More next week. Meet my dad, the cowboy!

Finally,

For Dad’s 75th birthday, Mom and I compiled a book he helped us put together about how the Horner ranch was put together. This book is available on Amazon in paperback or e-book format.

I would be remiss for not writing down Dad’s stories—he exceled at storytelling. My sister chided me after she read this book to her. She questioned with sadness in her eyes, “Where are his stories?”

So, it’s never too early— be sure and write down, record—do anything to capture those stories. I really would have liked to hear Dad’s nine-year-old version of that long trip from Tulsa, but he’s gone! Don’t wait!

PS – I’m sorry to say I have no pictures here of my dad as a child.

It's never to early to talk to your dad, your mom or your grandparents! A Plushie of Larada!
It’s never to early to talk to your dad, your mom or your grandparents! A Plushie of Larada!

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May Ends Today With A Tribute Poem to Mom

Mom Celebrating her 75th birthday - tribute poem
Mom Celebrating her 75th birthday

This last day of May I want to share a tribute poem I wrote for my mom on her 75th birthday. Not everyone writes a tribute poem for their mother, but I had to for this occasion. Turning 75 seemed like a big deal then, and much bigger deal today as I’m 72.

My nieces and nephew read it to us. So, it was a poem in three voices. Mom loved it. The variety of their voices made the poem come alive in a different way. Poetry is meant to be read alive, and it showed

Here’s Your Life, Elva Marie Dickerson Horner

Summer, 2003

February 13, 1919, a young couple rode
horseback
to marry
Virgil & Tresia
Nine months later, Willa Lee came
Nine years later, Elva Marie was born
on September 24, 1928.

Your story starts here!

Youngest child,
Dirt floors in your home,
Ma and Pa close
Violin lessons
Donald Lujan called you “Squeaky.”

A move to Raton when you were
in the eighth grade.
In high school you hung out with
The country kids
from Johnson Mesa.
You went to see the play Othello
and were mystified.
Hughie and Willie were married
and along came Janet.
You played with her like a doll.

And you loved to dance.
A certain cowboy caught your eye
at a dance.
You noticed his different dance style.

At the Robin Hood
in Raton, New Mexico,
He crossed the dance floor
toward you.
You knew he was going to ask you
to dance,
you panicked.
And the romance of a lifetime started
with Harold Horner.

You dated:
you danced!
You got thrown out of the Crystal Lounge
because you were underage,
But he returned
when you turned 21.

You were married on August 28, 1951
in Raton, New Mexico.
Your married life that would span
45 years had begun.
You immediately became stepmother
to three small children:
Fred, Larraine, and Sue.

As newlyweds you moved in with
Harold's parents in Branson, Colorado
to experience a small town
tradition—Chevarier
Short sheet the beds,
Remove labels off of all
the canned goods,
A wheelbarrow ride for the bride

Your first home was bought from
the Stevensons—
Lock, stock, and barrel.

On May 25, 1952,
Harold Virgil arrived;
On June 27, 1953,
Teresa Larada appeared
— 13 months later!

Your family intact!

Lots of life happened in that small
country town through the years.
The children grew—
Dad remembers coming home
From La Junta and caught you
In the rocking chair
With the baby in each arm.
Your arms were numb!

You painted bright red lips
for Larada's thin lips.
You spanked us with a wooden spoon.
You shampooed our hair
And sculpted it to stand up
Straight and tall.

Bub caught his hand
In the washing machine wringer—
You ran next door to Edna Fry
For help.

School filled the fall and winter
With basketball, dances, and
Cheerleading.
Spring was calving, baseball,
And branding.
Summer was Little League, horses,
4H, and our county fair,
Our one family vacation every year.

And lots of children at our house
Because you made them feel
So welcome!

Marriages—Lela joined our family!

Nine grandchildren came
Connie, Andy, Cheryl,
Jeff, Wade, Ellen,
Jason, Travis, and Blake

Eleven great grandchildren,
and one on the way.

You cherish family gatherings,
And holidays.
Granddad Horner loved to have family
Gatherings at our house because of
Your cooking and hospitality!

After Granddad Horner died,
You became Dad's right hand man,
Able to do anything on the ranch—
You worked hard!

You and Dad enjoyed a remarkable
Relationship of shared interest:
You danced, traveled,
Work together, and loved people.

You lovingly cared for Dad
To the end—
And you have taken care of yourself
These last few years admirably

Your interests vary.

You're an avid sports fan
Of all the Branson sports;
You yelled loudly at basketball games
With Mary Arguello.
You now sit in the same place every game
With Doris Goff.

You have been involved in the Branson
Home Demonstration Club,
Now Craft Club
And Community Club
Working in PTA for many years,
You helped start the annual
junior high basketball tournament.

In the 70s,
You got interested in genealogy
And have researched both
The Dickerson and
Horner sides extensively.

Girlfriends have been a part of
Your life forever—
Ellin Berry in high school;
Clara Warner, Nancy Salas,
and Mokey McMillan
Years ago;
Helen Waldroup, Betty Clark,
And Rose Ward now.

You were baptized
And are a faithful member of
Des Moines Methodist Church,
Attending every Sunday
With Bill & Janet.

All of us have evidence
Of your beautiful handiwork:
Afghans, quilts,
Christmas ornaments,
And so much more.

In 1999, we took a trip
To Eastern Europe
To find information
about your great grandfather—
It was a trip of a lifetime.

Often when we are with you,
We get the privilege of
Hearing your laughter,
So rich and inviting
Seeing your eyes twinkle.

Here are some memories
That make your blue eyes sparkle:
The first time Harold Horner asked
You to dance
Connie making milkshakes with you
And it ended up on the floor
Andy looking through the Remington
Cowboy book together with you
And making up stories
Cheryl drawing the
"God don't make Junk" picture
for you
And you sitting the whole time
watching
her draw.
You still have it on your refrigerator.
The twins loved going to the trailer
And playing baseball with you.

Mom, what a wonderful life
We celebrate today —
75 glorious years!

What a lovely day it was! And here you have had the opportunity to get to know my mom today and throughout the month of May.

A tribute poem etched out her life with bits and pieces but there was more! Reading it now, I remember so much more! I hope you enjoyed it.

Larada graphic - tribute poem
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Another Celebration of Mom: Pictures Galore!

Mom at the Branson-Trinchera Reunion - Cover of Volume 2 of My Cookbook series - galore
Mom at the Branson-Trinchera Reunion – Cover of Volume 2 of My Cookbook series

I want to celebrate Mom again as we get near the end of May with pictures galore. During the month of May this year, I have so enjoyed sharing my mom with you. I just went through thousands of pictures on my computer. My heart swelled up with nostalgia—I gulped back some tears for sure. All treasures for sure.

2010 – Summer

On the 4th of July, my brother, Mom and I went to Cuchara, Colorado for a night or two. It became a family tradition. We shopped during the day. Then we danced at night. Our favorite place there was the Dog Bar. Yes, people brought their dogs there out on the patio.

Mom, Larada & Harold in Cuchara, Colorado for the 4th of July
Mom, Larada & Harold in Cuchara, Colorado for the 4th of July

2010 – Summer

Before Dad died, he started a tradition of buying Mom and I a dress alike. See the dress below. After he died, I kept the tradition alive. You can see in these pictures we had matching sweaters.


2011 – Summer

Another trip to Cuchara, Colorado for the 4th of July. We had so much fun up there with people dancing and enjoying the mountains of Colorado. Usually we spent a couple nights in the hotel there. We shopped and danced—the Horners love to dance! And they always had a live band in the evening.

My brother, Mom & Larada at the Dog Bar in Cuchara, Colorado - galore
My brother, Mom & Larada at the Dog Bar in Cuchara, Colorado

2011 – Christmas

Lin, Mom and I so enjoyed Christmas in Colorado at her house with her sister, Aunt Willie. One year, the electricity went off on Christmas Eve. I had given Lin and Aunt Willa Advent gifts—a tradition Mom started for me in 1988. The gifts I gave them were children’s Christmas activity booklets. Lin entertained us with them. Having the electricity off ended up being a bonus because we did silly stuff and laughed and laughed.

Often we celebrated Christmas Eve with my Aunt Joan, but this picture is during the day, so apparently that year we had too much snow on Christmas Eve, so we went to see her on December 26.


I so cherished the relationship Mom had with her sister. After Uncle Hughie and Aunt Willie retired, they moved from Albuquerque, New Mexico to Folsom, New Mexico, just 25 miles from where Mom and Dad lived.

After both of their husbands died, they became a major support for each other.

Mom Kissing Aunt Willie - galore
Mom Kissing Aunt Willie

So Let’s End For Now

As I looked at all the pictures of Mom, I realized this part of her life rotated around her family. In reality, her whole life rotated around her family. I love that!

Is it too much to write about my mom the whole month of May? Share pictures galore of her? Of us? After next week, it will be five posts about Mom. I’ve never done this before in the thirteen years I’ve written this blog. Something in my heart wanted to do this. I hope you understand.

Let me know your thoughts about it!


Mom & My First Outfits Alike for Christmas - Thanks to Dad! - galore
Our First Outfits Alike for Christmas – Thanks to Dad!

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Honor Your Mother: What Does That Mean?

From Grannie's Kitchen cover - honor
From Grannie’s Kitchen cover

What does it mean to honor your mother? Here we are in the month of May. I could be talking about flowers, spring, the beach. But no, I’m still talking about my mom.

I want to honor my mother by remembering her by sharing some pictures that really show her personality!

Mom and Dad married August 28, 1951. She married a cowboy and moved to Branson, Colorado, 50 miles away from her parents. In this move she adjusted! Eagerly she settled in and became a cowboy/rancher’s wife with the dust and manure that came with it. She also became a stepmother to three children: Fred, 7 years old; Larraine, 6 years old; and Sue, 5 years old.

That’s what Mom did—she adjust and adapted. I don’t have any pictures of her younger scanned it, but I have so many of her in elder years. It is in these you see her sassy, fun-loving personality come out.

Mom and I took a trip to eastern Europe that was so amazing. We went because her great grandfather, Frank Joe Ulbig, entered the US as a stowaway, so there’s no record of him at Ellis Island or any other port of entrance. She did find out he lived in Prussia, so that was the reason we went to eastern Europe. Here she is in Krakow, Poland dancing up a storm and a special moment on the trip.

Mom & Larada in our Branson, Missouri t-shirts - honor
Mom & Larada in our Branson, Missouri t-shirts

Mom and I scheduled a trip to Branson, Missouri before the Branson-Trinchera Reunion. What a great time we had there. Afterwards, at the Branson-Trinchera Reunion, we wore our t-shirts we bought.

Larada, Mom & Candy Celebrated Larada's Birthday in Cripple Creek, Colorado - honor
Larada, Mom & Candy Celebrated Larada’s Birthday in Cripple Creek, Colorado

Before my birthday, Mom and I met my dear life-long friend, Candy McMillan Vargas, in Cripple Creek, Colorado for any evening of gambling. We had a blast. Mom was pregnant with my brother when Candy’s mom was pregnant with her, so our shared lives went back to their births!

Mom's sense of humor shines through! - honor
Mom’s sense of humor shines through!

At the Branson-Trinchera Reunion, Mom donned a Mexican hat that was the table decorations and gave me a photo opportunity. I loved her sense of humor and willingness to jump and participate. I guess I got that from her.

Mom & Helen Waldroup respond to Larada taking a picture! - honor
Mom & Helen Waldroup respond to Larada taking a picture!

Again, we were at the Branson-Trincherar Reunion, and I was taking pictures. So, I wanted a picture of Mom, so this was her response. Again she made me laughed with her raspberries response.

2010

Larada & Mom wear our Team Candy t-shirts! - honor
Larada & Mom wear our Team Candy t-shirts!

Our dear friend, Candy, was diagnosed with kidney cancer, so a friend of hers made up these t-shirts for the people in her support system. We took this picture and sent it to her, hoping to boost her morale.

I am going to stop there and continue this parade of pictures next week, to continue honoring Mom.

How do you honor your mom? Do you call her? Enough times during the week?

I had a horrible experience with my mom. In 2006, a major snowstorm hit Branson, Colorado and Mom was out of electricity for three days, basically snowed in, and I didn’t know it. When I called her, she was frantic. Luckily a neighbor dug her out because the snow had piled in on her door.

When I talked to her, I realized her devastation. From that point until she died, I called her daily.

Especially for a widowed parent, a simple daily call helps the parent know you are there. For the child, it honors that parent and helps her know what’s going on that day. Remember that!

Mom and Larada - honor
I honor you, Mom!

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