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Day 30 – Sewing Brings Back Memories: Another Necessary Project

sewing machine

This afternoon, I started a sewing project. I needed to shorten some drapes my husband bought while I was gone. Here’s what happened.

When we first started furnishing our new home in Panamá, we began with drapes. There were no drapes on any windows, but none on the living room windows made us feel so vulnerable and exposed. We bought lovely green and gold ones and our landlord put them up for us. I thought we were done.

Then we realized we needed more because they didn’t completely cover the large window facing Vulcan Barú. The gap felt ugly and open again, exposed.

While I was gone in November to the states, Lin went to David shopping. He couldn’t find our original green and gold ones, but he found a beige one that worked. He texted me pictures of them choices, and I agreed with him on the beige ones, so he bought two panels to fill the space more evenly. When he got them home and hung, they were too long and drug the floor—4 inches longer than the others.

After listening to his dismay about his oversight of the length, I assured him I could fix them. See there’s a reason. I started sewing at nine years old in 4-H. When I was in high school, many of my friends and I made our own western pants—skin tight with yokes on our butts and down on the bottom of each leg—they were fantastic in our eyes. In my early adult life, I made all my clothes, but life got complicated when I divorced and went to the university, and they sewing stopped.

On occasion, I have returned to my sewing machine to do simple projects, because the deep seamstress knowledge was long gone.

So today, my husband, Lin, and I began this project. First, we took the two panels of longer drapes off of the curtain rod. Then, I laid one panel on our bed, folding the top half up so I had the bottom smooth and even. After much discussion about how much to cut off, we decided to cut off 4 inches. So, I marked on the panel every couple inches with a marker so I would cut it evenly.

Lin worried I might cut our bedspread, so he helped me by hold the panel up. I did the cutting, and it worked.

Because that worked so smoothly, we cut the second panel immediatley.

I didn’t bring my sewing machine with me—we came with only six large suitcases, so there was no way. So, I borrowed one from a neighbor, Ruth Howell. She kindly lent me all of her sewing supplies too.

So, it took a while to find the power switch on the machine. The instructions are in Spanish, so that was not easy because I don’t know sewing vocabulary. My next task was putting thread on the bobbin which was fairly easy, I thought. Then, I threaded the sewing machine and the needle.

Part of the reason I gave up sewing recently—my eyesight and threading a needle. But this time I did really well.

So, I laid out the panel and started the hemming with turning up a ¼ inch hem to make the edge look good. When I began, the sewing machine sewed a few stitches and stopped totally. The bobbin side looked horrible with huge knots.

Then we began to wonder if the drape material was too heavy for the machine. After this debacle, we had almost decided to go to a seamstress in town tomorrow. That would be the easiest—I’m busy. I don’t need to be doing this.

But I couldn’t stop! I rethreaded the bobbin three or four times and nothing seemed to work. I used Google Translate and translated the instructions for threading the bobbin, but I had done it right. So I wondered if I had threaded the top part right. I looked more closely at the instructions and dove deeper into my memory. I realized I had missed a very important part.

Once, I did that and rethreaded the needle—easily again, I might say, the machine worked like a dream. Luckily, I got the 1/4 inch turn-up done on one panel.

Before we went any further, we decided to measure the green and gold drapes we bought initially. Both of us thought they were 84 inches long, so that’s why we cut off the 4 inches. To our surprise, they are 82 inches long, so I had to change the hem in the beige panels to four inches. I’ve pinned up one panel.

So, tomorrow I’m going to finish this project. The sewing machine took over our kitchen table, but I really want to do this. It stems from a saying my dad repeatedly shared with me my whole life, “Winners never quit, and quitters never win!” Even when it’s a sewing project like this.

What do you do when you face a task like this? Give up? Grit your teeth and jump in? Let me know.

Larada Horner-Miller - sewing
I really do love sewing!

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Day 29 – A Picture of Me—On My Wedding Day

One of my favorite pictures of me is on my wedding day, October 22, 2011. The sheer joy shines in my eyes. And here’s the reason why!

My ex-husband and I separated in 2008. We divorced in early 2009. My best girlfriend, Kathi Raver, in square dancing died in November 25, 2009. My ex-husband and I did lots of fun activities with Kathi and her husband, Lin—we went to square dance festivals and dance together. We played games in each other’s homes. Also, we danced weekly at our three club dances.

After the first of the year, Lin called me asking if I would like to dance with him at the three club dances. Because we were friends before, the dancing moved into more of a relationship.

So, we officially started dating in May 2010 and married in 2011. It might appear that we rushed this, but Kathi had said repeatedly to me when my ex and I broke up to get over it—give it six months and go on.

Lin proposed to me on Christmas Day, 2010 in Branson, Colorado in front of my mom and my aunt—what a precious day that was!

Then he spent the year telling everyone at square dance festivals were at all over the country to come to our wedding! He evenly got up on the microphone at some and made the big announcement.

Because of our love for dancing, we got married at the Albuquerque Square Dance Center. My brother and mom gave me away. He had two best men and I had eleven brides’ maids.

Because of our multiple marriages my Episcopal priest couldn’t marry us, so we found someone on the internet, and she did a beautiful job, weaving our story into our vows, even referencing recovery quotes for me.

So, we had a short ceremony and a big dance party afterwards! Three hundred of closest friends attended with some flying in from Florida and Tennessee.

During the ceremony, I read Lin a poem I wrote for the occasion. Here it is:

It’s Here! Our Wedding

October 22, 2011

It's here!

Our life together starts today

The past is behind us
The future looms positively in our view!

I have labored over the words to say to you.
How do I find words to describe what has happened
Between us

There is not a container to hold it

We come from 2 rich, full lives
a small town New Jersey boy and
a country girl from Colorado
Other places, other times
Other husbands, other wives

We arrive here today
From tragedy
The loss of Kathi
Your dear former wife
And My dear friend

We arrive here today
From joy
In our newfound relationship,
Having been friends for years!
I knew you and liked you before
I fell in love with you!

Thank you for proposing to me
On Christmas morning, 2010
In front of Mom and Aunt Willie,
My 92 year old aunt
and
making It official.

When You met My dear Uncle Tanky
After you proposed, he took me aside
And said he's the best!

I agree—I have no doubt.

Many of our friends here today have
Told us that they will be glad when we get married,
So we would stop kissing and hugging each other
All the time!

I will never stop!
Each kiss and each hug heals my soul at a deeper level
I want more!

Lin, to me
You are a cool mountain breeze
Deer stopping by for nourishment & comfort!
You are laughter! Every Wednesday night at
round dancing when you refer to the foxtrot
as the F word, I laugh deeply!

I know that the life we will start today
Is rich
blessed
And oh, so good!

As I look out over
Our family and friends,
I know we have the support
And power to make this marriage
Become a fascinating adventure.

Today we become husband and wife
And some of you may wonder
"why?"
At our age.

Here's my reason—
I wanted to stand today before
My family and friends and God and profess
my love to you.
To me the sacrament of marriage
Has a different value today!
I wanted the protection for us
That marriage offers.

I commit today
To be Larada
Creative, messy, wacky and fun!

I ask you to be Lin.
Creative, neat, linear and goofy!

Together we form a "we"
That's dynamic!

I could site a long list of thank you's today,
but I want to thank you mostly for one thing—
choosing to
Share the rest of your
Life with me! It's here!

After I read this, Lin played, I Cross My Heart, a George Strait song for me—George is my favorite.

The joy on my face in the picture below shows exactly what this day was for me—the best day of my life!

Larada Horner-Miller on her wedding day - picture

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Day 28 – YouTube Videos: My Poetry Alive!

YouTube videos capture people’s interest, but instead of curating content from outside my world, I’m going to share a couple videos I recorded last year in April during National Poetry Month.

Videos of poetry from Time Measured Out!: Navigating Life’s Journey Through Poetry

In December, I released the second book in a five-book poetry series, Time Measured Out!: Navigating Life’s Journey Through Poetry. These poems show the variety of topics in the book.

I share my names with my grandmothers, but this poem is about sharing my name with my paternal grandmother. She had a major influence on me, living in the same town.

I love magical realism, but I base this poem on a real experience I had one morning on a walk.

Videos of poetry from Is My Truth Universal?: A Woman’s Poetic Odyssey

This book demonstrates how I maneuvered a poetry class and its requirements, much different than my free verse poetry. This book is permanently FREE, so go and download it:

https://laradasfreebook.com/truth

“The cinquain, also known as a quintain or quintet, is a poem or stanza composed of five lines.”

https://poets.org/glossary/cinquain

“In poetry, a stanza is like a paragraph, and a quatrain is a stanza of exactly four lines, often with an alternating rhyme

pattern.”

https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/quatrain

Finally,

I love reading my own words—that’s the reason why I love doing audiobooks. These videos are snippets of me and my words! If they resonate with you, let me know! It’s so rewarding to get feedback.

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I love recording my own words!

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Day 27 – AutoFiction: Fiction Based on a Part of My Life Story!

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Autofiction really is a genre in the world of books today, but many people have never heard of it. I embraced it before I knew what it was!

Jane Friedman, an expert in the literary world today, tell us:

“Short for autobiographical fiction, autofiction uses elements of autobiography and fiction to examine decisive aspects of the writer’s life. The writer then melds these realities with fictional plot elements, characters and events in a way that often reads like memoir or autobiography. With the lines of fact and fabrication blurred, readers are engaged in wondering what’s real, what isn’t, and how they can figure out which is which.”

https://janefriedman.com/the-how-when-and-why-of-writing-autofiction

In 2016, I joined NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) in November because I had a story I had to tell. At the time, I didn’t know the name of the genre—I just knew this was the best way for me to tell this. The subject matter stung: my incest story. Also, add to this formula Trump won the election November 8, and I deeply knew from my injured self he was a perpetrator. That ignited my writing back that month, and I ended up with over 50,000 words by the end of November—the word count goal of every writer in NaNoWriMo.

I couldn’t wait to revise this book and get it out in the world. Feeling that I had a message to share on the travesty and the healing possible, I started the work.

Then a book deal fell into my lap to write the biography of the most famous square dance caller in the world, Marshall Flippo, and I couldn’t let it go. Flippo was in his late 80s and dancers clamored for this book, so away I went down that avenue. My autofiction book got pushed to the background!

Nine years later with more intense healing for my incest issues over those years, the Epstein files came front and center. In talking with my therapist, I shared that they were a trigger but not like before. I had moved to action—I wanted to be an advocate for survivors. We brainstormed ideas: a website and the power of it. Then it dawned on me—my book might help someone who survived incest.

So, that’s my next book project even though I just published my second book in a five-book poetry series. I mulled over trying to publish book #3 and the autofiction together. After a conversation with my book coach, Derek Doepker and the group, I realized I have to focus on this book now because of its relevance.

My book is written in two voices: Ellie and Laura. Two women tell their stories back and forth, chapter by chapter. So far, the working title is Eye Witness to Life or Eye Witness to Healing because Ellie, her husband and Laura’s husband all receive healing as they watch Laura go through the grueling discovery and healing of her incest issues.

So, here’s the first scene from this book:

People call me Ellie—my given name is Ellen Marie.

I have been an eye witness to much in my life—losses that ripped my heart a part. I lost three key people within three years in my teenage years.

 Dad died in a tragic car accident, then my mom drank herself to death after he died. I pride myself that I stood by my mom during her time of need. I was an eye witness to her death, holding her hand as she drew her last breath. Even as a teenager, death didn’t frighten me. It felt like a privilege to stand at her bed. My sister, Susie, and I shared that poignant moment. 

At the same time, my high school sweetheart was killed in a car crash. These losses drove the rest of my life.

The hardest loss of my life happened when I lost a child during a hard pregnancy. I had one child and then had three miscarriages afterwards. I carried the last one for six and a half months and thought my little boy was safe, but not.

Then I stood by while a dear friend took her last breath, dying young at fifty-nine years old of cancer. She had become a surrogate mother for me. The hospice nurse led those of us standing around her bed through the death process, step by step. After that experience, I respected our body’s magnificent system of dying.

Life has been a succession of losses and pain; however, the following scene ripped my heart a part once again and changed my life forever.

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I know this is a hard topic but we must be honest about it and share our stories. For too long it has been ignored. Ellie’s friendship plays a big part in the Laura’s subsequent healing and her own. Do you have friends like that? Are you a friend like that?

I have not finished the website yet, if you are interested, email me at larada@icloud.com and I will let you know when it goes live. It will be a safe place to convene, tell our stories and support each other.

Larada Horner-Miller - AutoFiction
Yes, it’s a hard topic, but we need to talk! WE HAVE TO TALK!

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