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An Empty House: The Hectic Part is Over!

Empty chair in a room

We now have an empty house except for a couple of chairs, tables for our laptops and a table to eat on and play cribbage and an inflatable air mattress. Last week was a blur!

The estate went well, but we ended up with a garage full of stuff—some major pieces. So this is what we did!

It was a down day supposedly, but Lin kept taking stuff out to the garage from the house. We had our 75” TV, entertainment center and sound bar in the living room left from the sale. Also, we still had a couch of mine and a matching glider-rocker. So we still could watch TV and relax.

But I immediately put the TV, entertainment center and sound bar on Facebook Marketplace for a ridiculously low price and added some of the bigger items to sell. The TV outfit sold quickly.

Eric Bender and Branch , his assistance, from Cambridge Partners Estate Sales, came with boxes to box up the remaining stuff, but we ran out of boxes quickly! Yes, he had too much. And Lin kept taking stuff out to the garage—it seemed to multiple!

Eric and Branch returned to box up more and also helped move larger pieces of furniture out to the garage. Sadly, two pieces couldn’t move from their resting place.

No one wants Southwest Design today!

Lin put a sofa sleeper in a spare bedroom we dubbed “The Library” fourteen years ago by himself. These three men could not get it through the door. So the only choice: Lin destroyed it with a sludge hammer.

My Computer Desk - Empty
The hunch wouldn’t come apart from the base!

My computer desk was the other piece of furniture we had trouble with, besides it was in the loft. We couldn’t get it a part, so they couldn’t carry it down the stairs. I have had it for over twenty years, and the locking screws would not release. So, Lin took a sludge hammer to it, and surprisingly I did not shed a tear.

I said to Lin, “That’s where I wrote my nine books!” yet it felt okay to let it go!

While this was going on, we had all our windows professional washed to prepare for selling the house. They were so accommodating with all the activity going on.

Later in the afternoon, neighbors who have an association with SARANAM came and picked up two truckloads of furniture. They took the sofa and matching glider-rocker. We had our whole guest room left, so they took a bed and two antique dressers. The estate sales person, Eric, said people don’t want antiques anymore, these were all antiques—sad, but SARANAM is great, so they went to a great home. This is a fantastic agency that helps people get back on their feet.

Lin took a sludge hammer to the sofa sleeper and methodically removed the wood and material parts, then we carried out the sleeper bed framework. The trash outside grew and grew!

In the afternoon, I took five big bags of clothes to Bethel Community Storehouse in Moriarty, New Mexico. They welcomed me warmly and said bring your things here instead of Albuquerque.

Our estate sales company was fantastic. Eric came in the morning and hauled off in one load all the torn-up furniture. Lin said he kept piling things in the back of his truck and when he left he looked like Pa Kettle.

Also Friday, we had our house cleaners come and deep clean the house. Oh, my! I had left the oven a mess and they took care of it! And much, much more!

A truck from Big Brothers & Big Sisters came around noon, the driver loaded up all the rest of the stuff except for a few exceptions: Lin’s roll top computer desk, a mattress and a small refrigerator. What a delightful man Victor was—he visited with us and we had a great time with him!

Narrow storage unit - empty

We did keep out one little storage unit I built in 2008 from a kit because we had so much interest in it on Facebook Marketplace, and it sold.

So the house is empty except for an air mattress our realtor lent us that is super-comfortable and tables and chairs for computing, eating and playing cribbage.

Monday the carpet cleaner comes. Thursday, we have pictures taken in the morning and the house goes on the market Thursday night or Friday.

Empty house echoes—it’s our possession that fill a house with love and soul.

Here’s a haiku I wrote about our house now.

The house echoes now.

Its emptiness sounds hollow.

It awaits the new.


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Our Estate Sale: Say Goodbye to 72 Years of Stuff!

Stuff for sale at our estate sale

Our estate sale ended today, Sunday July 27, 2025 and started on Friday, July 25, 2025. It surpassed my expectations in sales, yet it was grueling and bittersweet! Here’s why!

When we got back from Panama in late May, I made three trips to Colorado for my brother’s birthday, to see my nephew and his two daughters from California and to spend the Fourth of July with my niece and her four children and three grandchildren from Texas, California and North Carolina. While I was out gallivanting around, Lin packed and packed and packed—he was three weeks ahead of me.

So, when I got home on July 8, I faced a marathon of packing my things I wanted to keep to put in storage, identifying things to sell and things to give-away. We scheduled our estate sale for July 25-27, so I thought I had about three weeks to do all this. Not enough time at all! And then it got cut short!

I thought I had a dedicated time of three weeks to do this work, but Eric Bender, the owner of Cambridge Partners Estate Sales, asked if he could come and start setting up on Thursday, July 17.

So the estate sales crew started setting up and continued for the week before the sale. I understand now why they did that—we had a lot of STUFF! So they came religiously for a week and set up while I continued to pack for storage and sort stuff to go into the estate sale!

I ended up putting off going through my part of the walk-in closet until Wednesday, two days before the sale! Maybe because it seemed to be the most emotionally charged part for me—I don’t know, but I finished late Thursday evening!

For Christmas 2008, I bought Mom a Mother’s Christian journal to fill out. She filled it out and gave it back to me Christmas 2009. Buried in the bottom drawer of the end table next to my side of the bed, I hadn’t read it in fourteen years—since I’ve been married to Lin.

After finding it last week, I ended my day in bed reading Mom’s words—heartfelt words about meeting Dad, having my brother and me, her childhood and more! I laughed; I wept. What a family treasure! I want to share it with my family.

To segue from the good above, the bad is—I hadn’t gone through my drawers in fourteen years. I just kept stacking additions to the drawer on top of the treasures below. Not a wise decision! To defend myself, I got busy with our fun-filled lives of dancing and traveling and didn’t make time to sift through down to the bottom.

So, my advice and my future goal: go through all drawers more often—maybe every five years!

We live in the east mountains in the forest and have minimal issues with mice. Last year, because of my recovering from the dog attack, I didn’t wear all my Christmas sweaters, turtlenecks and leggings. When I started through those drawers last week, I found my favorite Christmas sweater had been chewed on by mice and a couple other pieces. Then at the bottom of one drawer, I found three dead baby mice—OMG! Not good!

Being raised in the country, I have dealt with mice my whole life, but this really upset me—my favorite Christmas sweater!!

When Friday morning hit, I felt anxious—would we sell anything? What would happen? However, this wasn’t our first estate sale. When Lin and I got married in 2011, we had duplicates of so many things because of two households, so we held one in my townhouse in Albuquerque and did really well on it.

So, each morning for the last three days, we left before the customers arrived. We camped out at the Starbucks in Edgewood from about 8:30 – 3:00 PM with our laptops, iPads and books. The staff has been so friendly and supportive of us hanging out there.

At the end of each sales’ day, we returned home to see some of our things had magically disappeared. Each day, Eric gave us a full-scale report, telling us about what sold and any anecdotes about the day. Then later in the evening, he texted a dollar amount of sales for the day. So far, Friday has been the best day. Right now we’re waiting for the 3:00 PM deadline to go home and see what’s left—hopefully very little!

Here’s two videos of before the sale and how they staged the house.

First downstairs and out in the garage.

Upstairs!

Here’s pictures of what the house looked like this morning on the third day. Notice how Eric taped off any areas the customers are not allowed to go into—very helpful for us.

Yes, I’m an emotional person. Life excites me, but sometimes it destroys me, so I know that about myself. Lin says I’m a packrat! No, I hold onto things—that’s my downfall. In the preparation for our move and the estate sale, I threw away first drafts of my books, memorabilia and other stuff. I kept meaningful pieces from my family and my heritage, but I didn’t shed one tear! That’s shocking to me! In recovery, we talk about detachment, and I felt that happening repeatedly. In fact, Lin has been shocked at what I let go!

I cannot recommend Eric Bender from Cambridge Partners Estate Sales highly enough! Eric and his crew understood totally the emotional stress Lin and I were under and lovingly dealt with us as they set up and we packed. We laughed together. They asked us questions and were willing to take suggestions. Eric’s company has a faithful following, and they even came up to Tijeras. What a delight he is! If you’re in the Albuquerque area and need an estate sales expert, call Eric at 404-405-4447.

I have no children, so I’ve repeatedly quipped to Lin and friends that us doing this hard work now has saved my nephew and two nieces a lot of hard work later when I die! Yes, I still have a storage shed full in Tijeras, but not a house full!

It was cleansing. Letting go of things I haven’t used in years! Downsizing!

Have you ever done an estate sale? Have you downsized? How did you deal with the emotions?


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